Why Love Alone Isn't Enough: Stan & Tracey Tatkin

<p>Free gift from Stan &amp; Tracey: get an excerpt of Stan's book In Each Other's Care, including the introduction and the full "Fighting Dos and Don'ts" chapter:<br><a href="https://www.thepactinstitute.com/ieoc-giveaway">https://www.thepactinstitute.com/ieoc-giveaway</a></p><p>"If your driving guiding force in a relationship is love only, you're not going to make it." Dr. Stan Tatkin, the developer of PACT, and his wife Dr. Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, co-founder of the PACT Institute, say love is real, but it rises and falls like the weather. What holds a couple together under stress is something you design on purpose.</p><p>Courtney Wren-Mabbutt and Mike Elliott sit down with Stan and Tracey for an honest, funny and deeply practical conversation about secure functioning: a relationship built on shared purpose, clear agreements, fairness and quick repair. They explain why it's not him or her. All of us get difficult under stress, because a lightning-fast threat system takes over before we've chosen anything, and suddenly the person we love looks like the problem.</p><p>The invitation: decide together why you're here, plan for your hardest moments, and learn to catch the shift in each other before it runs the show.</p><p><strong>Chapters:</strong><br>0:00 Cold open<br>2:24 Welcome to The Sacred We<br>3:21 Welcome Stan and Tracey Tatkin<br>6:03 It's not him or her<br>11:43 Mentor couples and pro-relationship teams<br>15:37 Most couples never design their relationship<br>16:50 Secure functioning and one crazy at a time<br>18:32 Shared vision, agreements and purpose<br>23:11 Return to love<br>26:45 Protecting each other<br>30:07 The red wagon: attachment is survival<br>34:13 Know your partner's nervous system<br>37:38 Why love alone isn't enough<br>41:36 Pillow talk after 27 years<br>45:03 From island to clingy<br>54:37 Rituals and the touch-toes rule<br>58:02 Never fight in the car<br>1:00:40 The "it", the threat loop and catching the shift<br>1:09:51 Worth it, but hard<br>1:11:59 Their legacy and the Real Life Report Card</p><p><strong>Stan &amp; Tracey resources:</strong><br>Stan &amp; Tracey (official site):<br><a href="https://www.stanandtraceytatkin.com/">https://www.stanandtraceytatkin.com/</a><br><br>The PACT Institute:<br><a href="https://www.thepactinstitute.com/">https://www.thepactinstitute.com/</a><br><br>Wired for Love retreats and workshops:<br><a href="https://www.thepactinstitute.com/retreats">https://www.thepactinstitute.com/retreats</a><br><