EP 430 How I Control Alt Deleted My Life At 40 | Traver Boehm

<p>A decade ago, I woke up and it felt like my life had crashed all at once. A miscarriage. A divorce. A business partnership ending — all inside of a few months. These weren&#39;t small things.</p><p><br>I found three things that worked like hitting a reset button — control, alt, delete. You know, the command you give your computer when something&#39;s stuck. They helped me stop fighting what had happened and lit the way to rebuilding on purpose.</p><p><br><strong>Accept it&#39;s happening</strong> — Not why it&#39;s happening, not what it means. Just: this is real, and figuring out the why won&#39;t undo it. The moment I stopped spending my energy on why and started spending it on what&#39;s next, everything shifted.</p><p><br><strong>Make space, then get curious</strong> — When the life you had gets cleared out, there&#39;s suddenly room. Don&#39;t rush to fill it with the next relationship, the next business, the next distraction. Sit in it. That&#39;s where you start noticing what&#39;s actually trying to come through.</p><p><br><strong>Bust your ass</strong> — Once you know the direction, go all in. Rebuilding isn&#39;t comfortable and it sure isn&#39;t fast. I wrote three books in ten years, drove twelve hours to teach a free workshop, and slept in my truck. That&#39;s just a little of what it took.</p><p><br>Over a decade later, and I still wouldn&#39;t trade the life I&#39;m building for the one I &quot;lost.&quot;</p><p><br>If you know someone in the middle of their own version of this, please send them this episode.</p><p><br></p><p>——</p><p><br></p><p>Want to go deeper?<br>My first book, <a href="https://www.manuncivilized.com/books">Today I Rise</a>, was written during my own divorce</p><p><br>Or watch <a href="https://youtu.be/i4wW9ZGiaL0">Transformations: How to Navigate Life&#39;s Biggest Changes</a> for more on what real change actually requires</p><p><br>And if you don&#39;t know where to start, <a href="https://www.manuncivilized.com/start">get the framework here</a>.</p><p><br></p><p>——</p><p><br>Connect with Traver:<br><a href="https://www.instagram.com/traverboehm">Instagram</a><br><a href="https://traverboehm.substack.com/">Substack</a><br><a href="https://www.manuncivilized.com/">Website</a></p><p><br></p><p><strong>Chapter List</strong></p><p>00:00 Control Alt Delete: A Life Reset</p><p>05:48 Accept That It&#39;s Happening</p><p>11:33 Make the Space — Then Get Curious</p><p>17:05 Bust Your Ass — Build the New Life</p><p>20:30 Wrap