How to Heal Your Boundaries (Not Just Set Them) with Judy Hu

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Most boundary advice is about rules: what to say and where to draw the line. Trauma therapist turned boundary coach Judy Hu, author of "The Boundary Revolution," says that's the last step.

Becky and Faith talk with Judy about healing boundaries at the root, which means coming back to "same-size" with everyone else, treating discomfort as ancestral information, and asking whether what we call personality is really an adaptation to trauma.

They also cover raising teens in a culture that tells girls what they're worth, why safety in empire often just means survival, what the Cornell case shows about domination and moral injury, and how to hold people accountable without repeating the harm.

00:41 From trauma therapist to boundary coach, and seeing collective trauma everywhere

02:18 Icebreaker: favorite childhood TV shows

05:27 The story on repeat: teen daughters, unsupervised parties, and messages about worth

10:31 Judy's earliest memory: growing up in an immigrant family in a mostly white community

12:10 Encouraging defiance while keeping kids safe

18:50 Pleasing someone outside vs. inside; decolonization as reclaiming the body

21:09 Cornell, body sovereignty, and why this hurts in our bones