"Horribly Lovely": Writing Through Addiction, Presence & the Messy Human Journey with Jon Kohrs

In this episode of Your Radiant Spirit, host Heather Eck sits down with John, author of the memoir Horribly Lovely, to talk about the eight-year writing process that grew out of a marriage in crisis, a struggle with addiction, and a lifelong search for presence. John shares how a spontaneous, directionless drive became the seed of his book, why he describes writing as being "channeled," and how becoming a father, a coach, and a student of the Enneagram reshaped his understanding of love, intimacy, and what it means to be a "messy human." The conversation moves through Carl Jung's ideas on individuation, the vulnerability that follows sharing something true, childhood sensitivity to other people's energy, and the role of art and coaching as spaces for real presence.

In This Episode, We Talk About:

The seven-to-eight-year journey of writing Horribly Lovely

How addiction, a crumbling marriage, and a directionless drive became the seed of a memoir

Writing as "channeling" and letting the unconscious speak

The vulnerability hangover that comes after sharing something deeply personal

Carl Jung, individuation, and shedding layers to reach your core self

Presence as the throughline of John's coaching work and his life

Childhood sensitivity, energetic boundaries, and learning to hold space for others

The Enneagram as a lens for seeing how differently we each experience reality

Where creative ideas come from — and why they aren't always "ours" to keep

A quiet moment in Slovenia that became one of the book's central lines