147: Are You the Problem? How to Communicate With Your Partner

<p>In this episode, Professor AG talks about the ways our own thoughts can impact our relationships, especially when it comes to communication, resentment, and conflict. She shares nine common toxic thought patterns that can cause us to assume the worst, read our partner’s mind, jump to conclusions, or turn one small moment into a bigger story. AG talks about how to recognize when your brain is filling in the gaps, regulate yourself before reacting, take accountability for your own emotions, and communicate what you actually need instead of holding onto resentment. Because sometimes the problem isn’t just what happened, but the story we created around it. <em>Credit to Why Can&#39;t You Read My Mind? Overcoming the Nine Toxic Thought Patterns Get in the Way of a Loving Relationship. Jeffrey Bernstein</em></p><p><br></p><p><u>AG’s Book Club</u></p><p>-<a href="http://amzn.to/3TjUHQB"><u>The House and the Cerulean Sea by TJ Clune</u></a></p><p>-<a href="http://amzn.to/4jhkinP"><u>Why Can&#39;t You Read My Mind? Overcoming the Nine Toxic Thought Patterns Get in the Way of a Loving Relationship. Jeffrey Bernstein</u></a></p><p><br></p><p><u>Spend the day with me!</u></p><p>10.10 Portal day Pop-up </p><p>Readings, dancing, and community in 30A </p><p><a href="https://buytickets.at/aguniversity1/2356070"><u>BUY YOUR TICKET HERE</u></a></p><p><br></p><p>MY APP IS HERE!!</p><p>Daily somatic classes to regulate your nervous system. <a href="https://aguniversity.app/"><u> Start your FREE trial today.</u></a></p><p><br></p><p>Timestamps</p><p>00:00 Introduction and episode overview</p><p>02:00 Anna Grace&#39;s personal updates and reflections</p><p>03:50 Book recommendations and current reads</p><p>04:49 The role of somatic work and nervous system regulation</p><p>07:11 Understanding toxic thought patterns and their impact</p><p>09:04 The all-or-nothing trap and catastrophic conclusions</p><p>11:06 The should bomb and label slinging</p><p>12:52 The blame game and emotional short circuit</p><p>14:49 Overactive imagination and mind reading</p><p>17:09 The importance of communication and asking questions</p><p>19:08 The delusionment doom and seeing people accurately</p><p>20:53 Self-awareness and taking accountability</p><p>22:47 Practical tools for managing thoughts and emotions</p><p>25:10 The role of emotional regulation and nervous system health</p><p>27:00 The importance of clear communication and boundaries</p><p>28:52 Summary and final thoughts</p><p>Keywords: to