907. The pressure you put on yourself is the pressure your child will inherit with Dr. Shefali

Dr. Shefali, bestselling author + expert in conscious parenting, joins us for an honest conversation about raising emotionally resilient children in a world that is increasingly disconnected. She shares why parents must stop trying to perfect themselves—and start showing up fully as they are.

We talk about the hidden ways anxiety, achievement, social media, and performance-based parenting shape our kids, and why true connection starts with our own nervous system. Dr. Shefali explains how to raise children who trust themselves instead of chasing validation, success, or approval from the outside world.

She also gets real about the different ways boys + girls are being impacted by modern culture, from shame + disconnection to self-abandonment + the pressure to perform. This episode will challenge how you think about parenting + personal growth.

We also talk about: 

Why parents can’t “out-perfect” their unconscious

How children borrow regulation + a sense of safety from us

The difference between connection + simply being happy together

Why performance-based parenting is no longer working

Social media, comparison, beauty standards + the “perception prison”

Raising boys with less shame around emotions, sexuality + masculinity

Why girls are learning to be perceived before they learn to be

Parentification, self-abandonment + emotional caretaking