Is It Racist or Just Wrong? Teaching Our Sons How to Respond Without Losing Control | 219 Dear Son,

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood.

Is It Racist or Just Wrong? Teaching Our Sons How to Respond Without Losing Control | Dear Son Show

On the Dear Son Show, hosts D Johns and Jey Blac discuss the theme “it’s not right, but it’s okay,” sparked by an incident where D. Johns’ son, working in customer service, was loudly accused by an older white customer of miscounting change despite doing the right thing. They use the moment to talk about reacting appropriately, de-escalating to achieve the best outcome, and how being right differs from facilitating the right outcome. The conversation expands to parenting Black sons in a tense 2026 climate, when and how to discuss racism and discrimination without projecting paranoia, and how past experiences shape the “lens” parents pass to children. They also address misinformation, social media groupthink, election-cycle polarization, and the long-term consequences of public reactions and opinions.

00:00 Is It Racist Or Wrong

02:03 Show Intro And Hosts

02:31 Football Banter

03:31 Housekeeping And Merch

05:12 Topic Not Right But Okay

06:12 Son’s Customer Incident

07:53 Reactions And Outcomes

11:31 Talking Race With Kids

14:15 Generational Lens And Bias