Ep 41. "Everyone’s Māori Healing Journey Is Different" with Amos Nepia-Rangi

“Where we feel safe to receive can tell us something about what we have known, what we have missed, and what we may now be ready to experience differently.”

With Amos-Nepia Rangi, Romiromi/Mirimiri practitioner, coach & men's group facilitator

Remembering who you are with Amos Nepia

What happens when the work you are called to do is something you have actually been surrounded by since childhood?

In this conversation, Amos Nepia, also known as Mos, shares a deeply personal kōrero about healing, identity, whānau, whenua, masculinity and the journey of remembering who we are.

Amos grew up beneath Taupiri in the Waikato, surrounded by a close-knit community and a whānau where caring for people, the whenua and the maunga was simply part of life. As a child, he witnessed things he didn't yet have language for ~ watching his Koro support people in the community and seeing practices that would only make sense to him much later.

We talk about what happened when Amos moved away from that world, the guilt and shame he carried, and the experiences that eventually brought him back towards Māori knowledge, Romiromi, Mirimiri and his own identity.

From there, our conversation moves into the realities of doing this mahi ~ learning to trust, learning when not to push, understanding when someone is ready to receive, and recognising that the practitioner isn't there to "heal" someone's lineage or carry everything for them.

We also explore Amos's work with Tāne and men’s spaces, including the different ways men may approach healing, the importance of safety and trust, and what can happen when Tāne create spaces for other Tāne to receive.

There is a beautiful kōrero about Amos and his partner Sam, too ~ about working together, parenting together, giving each other space, navigating different ways of functioning, and learning how to collaborate without losing themselves in the relationship.

And we talk about facilitation ~ the shift from serving one person to holding a whole group, learning when to step forward and when to let people find their own way, and discovering that the mahi is bigger than any one practitioner.

At its heart, this is a conversation about remembering.