How to Turn Your Attachment Style Into a Secure Relationship with Gaby Balsells

<p>Why do you love the way you love?</p><p>Natassia sits down with <a href="https://www.modernintimacy.com/therapist/gaby-balsells/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Gaby Balsells</a>, a Clinical Psychologist licensed in Guatemala, relationship coach, and author of <a href="https://amzn.to/3TeYcHY" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Dating 101</em></a><a href="https://www.modernintimacy.com/therapist/gaby-balsells/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> </a>to unpack attachment styles, secure vs. anxious vs. avoidant attachment, dating after divorce, honesty vs. transparency, shape-shifting in relationships, raw spots vs. core wounds, the three types of sex, aftercare, and what actually makes desire feel safe. </p><p>Trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and a board member of the New York Center for EFT, Gaby wrote her dating book while walking through her own divorce after a ten-year relationship, and she's candid about the mistakes she made on dates that she would have flagged in her own clients.</p><p>From why no one can be truly secure in dating to why sex with the wrong person can feel so good, this conversation reframes attachment not as a label you're stuck with but as a pattern you can rewire. Gaby also makes the case that dating isn't a numbers game, it's an energy game.</p><p>Whether you're anxious on the apps, in a marriage that still feels stuck, or trying to understand why the same fight keeps happening, this episode will help you see the pattern underneath it.</p><p>⸻</p><p>If it takes you a while to get in the mood, your body may just need a different kind of stimulation, which is exactly why I love Aura by Mila: find out what works for you at<a href="https://heymila.co/lust" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> https://heymila.co/lust</a>.</p><p>Couples who talk about sex have better sex, so I created the Wonderlust Intimacy Card Deck to make that conversation fun and easy: get 10% off with code LUST at<a href="https://wonderlust.co" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> https://wonderlust.co</a>.</p><p>⸻</p><p>Lust in Translation Podcast</p><p>Subscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: <a href="http://lustintranslation.com" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">⁠lustintranslation.com</a> ⁠</p><p>Follow us on Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod