How Women Can Share the Mental Load in Relationships with Eve Rodsky (Encore)

If you’ve ever felt like you’re somehow responsible for remembering, planning, anticipating, organizing, and keeping track of ALL THE THINGS in your relationship, this conversation with Eve Rodsky is going to make you feel very seen.

Eve and I talk about the mental load women carry in relationships, the invisible and unpaid work that can be so difficult to put into words, and why creating a more equal partnership can completely change the way you experience your relationship. Whether you’re married, dating, single, or thinking about the kind of partnership you want someday, this is relationship advice you’ll want to hear.

You will learn…

Why women so often end up carrying the mental load in relationships

The invisible work that goes into keeping a household and family running

Why some of the most frustrating relationship dynamics are about much more than chores

How cultural expectations can shape the roles we fall into with our partners

What it can look like to create a more equal relationship without keeping score

Why “doing it all” isn't necessarily a sign that you're doing relationships well

How to start thinking differently about responsibility, partnership, and fairness

If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “Why am I the one who has to think about everything?”, you are absolutely not alone. The mental load can be exhausting precisely because so much of it happens internally — and because a lot of the work women do in relationships doesn't look like work from the outside.

And while we talk about this through the lens of heterosexual relationships, this conversation is really for anyone who feels like they’re taking on more responsibility than their partner. The goal isn't to blame women or men. It's to understand the systems and expectations we’ve inherited so we can start creating relationships that actually work for the people in them.