
â This Is Grief Too with Laverne McKinnon18 May · 11 min
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Robert got the call on a Friday afternoon. After trying to find a job in his industry for eighteen months, he faced the hard truth that for someone at his level, there were no viable openings. So he pivoted to Pharma doing sales. A far cry from Vice-President of Marketing at a film studio. He would start the new gig in two weeks.
Robert was elated to have a gig, but he was dejected because his degree, his experience, and his wins didnât translate to the new role. He would be starting in a sales training program with a âbunch of 20 year olds.â He confessed he was embarrassed and anxious to be a newbie.
If youâre mid-career or later, and youâre stepping into something unfamiliar, you may feel horribly destabilized. Because knowing your stuff has always been your anchor. And now itâs not enough.
Hereâs what I want you to know: your credentials are not meaningless. But theyâre not the whole story either. In new territory, something else takes the wheel. And most high achievers are the last to figure out what that something else actually is.
The Default Move That Backfires
When accomplished people step into unfamiliar terrain, they almost always do the same thing: they double down on what got them here. More preparation. More credentials. More proof that they belong. Itâs the only playbook they know, and itâs worked for a long time.
But in new territory, that strategy can work against you.
The pressure to perform expertise you donât yet have when youâre someone who typically hits it out of the ballpark can be debilitating. Instead of projecting competence, you end up projecting effort, which reads very differently in a room.
Why This Happens
Your identity has been wrapped up in being the expert for a long time. Itâs what happens when youâre good at something and build a career around it. Youâre rightly proud of those achievements.
But when youâre no longer the expert, your nervous system reads that as danger. So you over-prepare. You over-explain. You puff up with overcompensation.