Why Willpower Doesn’t Work: Identity-Based Habits for Leadership

<p>If you’ve tried habit systems and still fall off the wagon,Connie Kwan of Story Habits offers a different starting point: the values and stories behind the behaviour. Estelle and Connie discuss identity-based habits, why a borrowed “should” may not motivate change, and how leaders can connect team habits to values people genuinely hold. </p><p><strong>What You Will Learn</strong></p><p>💡 Why your habits do not stick when they are tied to shoulds, pressure and expectations, not your real values</p><p>💡 How the Story Habits method links balloons, anchors and strings to make change simple, sticky and personal</p><p>💡 How leaders secure their own habit first, then help each person find their own anchor for buy-in</p><p>💡 Practical ways to audit your habit wish list, pick one focus, and keep confidence through setbacks</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Timestamps 👇</strong></p><p>(00:00) Intro – Habits as an Outward Expression</p><p>(00:43) Host Introduction – Estelle Read</p><p>(01:09) What to Expect &amp; Guest Intro</p><p>(02:21) Identity-Based Habits &amp; the Anchor-BalloonMethod</p><p>(14:56) Subscribe &amp; Follow</p><p>(15:18) Wrong Anchors, &quot;Shoulds,&quot; &amp; Why HabitsFail</p><p>(30:57) Free Resources &amp; Discovery Call</p><p>(31:52) Three Strategies for Habit Change</p><p>(38:41) Pause, Reflect, Act</p><p>(39:12) Coaching Questions</p><p>(40:14) Outro &amp; Closing</p><p><br></p><p>📱FOLLOW OR CONTACT:<br>⭐GUEST: Connie Kwan, <a href="https://storyhabitsbook.com/">https://storyhabitsbook.com/</a>,<a href="https://conniekwan.substack.com/">https://conniekwan.substack.com/</a><u>, </u><a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/conniekwan/">https://www.linkedin.com/in/conniekwan/</a></p><p><br>⭐HOST: Estelle Read https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee or @EstelleReadCoach</p><p> </p><p><strong>🧰 ACCESS FREE RESOURCES &amp; TOOLS:</strong></p><p>⭐Want a summary of today’s learnings?</p><p>Subscribe to Estelle Read’s blog, <em>TheBrilliant Leader’s Notebook</em>, to get the key takeaways from every singleepisode: <a href="https://mailchi.mp/a0cfa5a8a10c/8chmrywh3r">https://mailchi.mp/a0cfa5a8a10c/8chmrywh3r</a></p><p>⭐Find Out Which of the 7 Leadership Saboteurs is Holding You Back by Completing the Scorecard:</p><p><a href="https://estelle-read.scoreapp.com/">https://estelle-read.scoreapp.com/</a></p><p> </p><p>⭐Download Estelle’s Free Journal &amp; Self-Coaching Tool:</p><p><a href="https://mailchi.mp/dab4b2568b71/free-inner-brilliance-outer-shine-journal"