The "it's not about you", "they're just being themselves", and "they're not aware of what they're doing"

Today I want to talk about a subject I think comes up constantly in therapy, and honestly not just in therapy — anywhere people are talking about healing your past. There are three sentences I keep coming back to. The first one is: it’s not about you. The second one is: they’re just being themselves. The third one is: they’re not aware of what they’re doing.

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