The Pushtheirluckables (#523)

# Navigating the Push Their Luckables in Your Life

> How to set boundaries with those who overstay their welcome.

There's a unique group of people that many of us encounter throughout our lives, and I like to call them the **Push Their Luckables**. These are the individuals who, despite being told no or given clear signals that their presence is unwelcome, continue to push boundaries.

## The Overstaying Neighbor

Imagine this scenario: I’m hanging out with a friend when an overly enthusiastic neighbor starts showing up daily. At first, it’s manageable. You make small talk, share a laugh, but soon it becomes too much.

> "Every day for the first week, I'm hanging out with my boy, and he looks at me like, 'What the heck is this?'"

Before you know it, the neighbor is showing up six days a week, interrupting work and personal time. My friend's patience is tested as he tries to work through the chaos of this unexpected social commitment.

## Borrowing Sugar: A Metaphor for Boundaries

In my own experience, I had a neighbor who was always borrowing a cup of sugar. Initially, it seemed harmless. But as time went on, I realized that he expected me to provide sugar every time he ran out, effectively making my kitchen a secondary grocery store.

> "To him, I was sugar."

This constant borrowing blurred the lines of our relationship and left me feeling like the bad guy when I had to say no. The moment I set a boundary, his demeanor shifted — he no longer greeted me with a smile.

## The Guilt Factor