#504 How to Dirty Talk Without the Cringe with Dr. Shannon Chavez

This week, we’re joined by Dr. Shannon Chavez, a leading voice in modern sexual wellness and one of the incredible experts teaching at our next Shameless Sex Couples Retreat!

Dr. Chavez is a licensed clinical psychologist, AASECT-certified sex therapist, professional sex coach, and founder of SHAPE Psychology. Her work brings a holistic, culturally inclusive approach to sex, relationships, and pleasure—and helps make conversations about sexuality feel more accessible, meaningful, and shame-free.

In this episode, we’re getting into one of the sexiest—and sometimes most awkward—topics: dirty talk! How do you make it feel authentic instead of forced? What if you feel totally uncomfortable saying “naughty” things out loud? And how do you figure out what actually turns you and your partner on?

We talk about:

What Dr. Chavez is hearing from clients about dirty talk: Are people into it, wanting more of it, or feeling intimidated by it?

Why dirty talk can feel so vulnerable, awkward, or difficult—even when you’re turned on

The different styles and forms of dirty talk, and how to find what works for you

A step-by-step approach to making dirty talk feel more natural and authentic

How to build confidence and discover your personal dirty-talk style

How to know what to say in the moment (without feeling like you have to perform!)

Talking about boundaries and consent around erotic language

How couples can create their own shared erotic language