191: Dark Motivation Works … But It Causes a Mid-Life Crisis (Try This Instead) with Connor Beaton from ManTalks

Do you ever feel like you're just wandering through life without a purpose … or like you're in the midst of a mid-life crisis?

These experiences start hitting you between your mid 30s to late 40s - and they bring up a bunch of difficult emotions.

But here's the good news:

I invited Connor Beaton of ManTalks back onto the show to share a few tricks to reframe your mid-life crisis (and turn it into a positive transformation). He reveals why fueling yourself with Dark Motivation (from internal shame) leads to a crisis in your 30s or 40s. And he also explains why running on shame-based motivation for too long is a recipe for depression.

If you're feeling off, without a true purpose in life, are in the middle of significant life changes, or feeling a depressive bug lately and you can't explain why, Connor gives you the step-by-step playbook to conquer these feelings and get closer to your true self.

Here's what Connor and I discuss:

How Dark Motivation works in the short-term (and comes with a hefty cost not worth paying over the long-term)

How stepping into the unknown frees you from the shackles of your rational mind and lets you step into the wisdom of your body

Why your refusal to let certain things go is the #1 thing keeping you stuck (and how it's creating stress and disease in your body)

Other highlights include:

Why do so many men struggle with therapy and is there a more effective strategy for us? (6:47)

Do you feel like you're just wandering through life without a purpose? Here are a few reasons behind why so many men feel like this (9:55)