
← The Jonnie Jensen Show6 Aug · 1 h 02 min
Your Marriage Isn't Broken, It's Paused feat. Dr Lee Baucom
<p>No man wakes up one morning and decides to stop fancying his wife. It happens by a decision neither of you remember making.</p><p>See exactly where the connection is leaking. Take your free HVM Score: <a href="https://highvaluemanproject.com/score" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">https://highvaluemanproject.com/score</a></p><p>Dr Lee Baucom has spent thirty years working with couples and is the author of Save the Marriage. </p><p>Jonnie bought that programme during his own divorce, ten years ago, and says it changed how he thinks about relationships to this day. They talk about the relationships that aren't broken, just quiet, and what it takes for one man to bring one back to life without waiting for permission.</p><p><strong>WHY THIS MATTERS</strong></p><p>Nobody arrives at the end of a marriage. Everybody drifts there, one benign decision at a time, and most men don't notice until the distance is too wide to talk across. Lee names the exact slope, and what a man can do about it on his own.</p><p><strong>HIGH VALUE MOMENTS</strong></p><p>02:38 What Jonnie learned about himself after his divorce</p><p>04:41 Good people having bad relationships</p><p>08:40 Save the Marriage, and the app that came before it</p><p>10:24 The little things that keep love alive</p><p>11:29 How couples hit the pause button</p><p>14:38 Why "we really love each other" doesn't beat the statistics</p><p>15:21 Treating the symptoms instead of the disconnection</p><p>17:26 The three levels of connection: physical, emotional, spiritual</p><p>20:16 Why the movie stops at happily ever after</p><p>24:21 The telltale signs of the pause phase</p><p>25:49 Setting the rules early: no eye rolls, no silent moods</p><p>30:54 Anger is a secondary emotion</p><p>32:29 Why you're more gracious with strangers than your wife</p><p>33:34 The disses: from disinterest to disdain</p><p>36:30 What constant rejection does to a man</p><p>40:04 When the relationship strains, everything strains</p><p>45:09 Putting your whole life on one relationship</p><p>47:18 Relationship before results</p><p>49:37 The three Cs: connect, change, create</p><p>50:45 Invitational connection, not date night</p><p>52:40 The moment his girlfriend said "believe"</p><p>55:49 Breaking up with love</p><p><strong>CONNECT WITH LEE</strong></p><p>If your marriage is in crisis: https://savethemarriage.comIf you're stuck and drifting that way: </p><p><a href="https://unpauseyourmarriage.com" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">https://unpauseyourmarriage.com</a></p><p><strong>YOUR HIGH VALUE MAN SCORE</strong></p><p>Discover your High Value Man score, so you can see where you're leaking your energy, connection and joy. Three minutes, and a personal report the moment you finish.</p><p><a href="https://highvaluemanproject.com/score" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">https://highvaluemanproject.com/score</a></p><p><strong>SHARE / REVIEW / SUBSCRIBE</strong></p><p>Know a man whose marriage has gone quiet? Send this to him directly. Not a broadcast. One specific man.</p><p>A review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify takes 90 seconds. It's the most useful thing you can do to help more men find this show.</p><p>Apple: <a href="htpps://highvaluemanproject.com/apple" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">htpps://highvaluemanproject.com/apple</a></p><p>Spotify: <a href="htpps://highvaluemanproject.com/spotify" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">htpps://highvaluemanproject.com/spotify</a></p>