
← The Luella Jonk Show16 Jun · 1 h 00 min
Episode #106: Ester Munt-Brooks on The Empty Nest, Aging Parents, and Falling in Love Again
In this conversation with Esther Munt-Brooks—Catholic speaker, sacred scripture scholar, and wife of happiness researcher Arthur Brooks—we're doing something a little different. No formal topic, no structured agenda. Just two women catching up on life, faith, marriage, and what it actually looks like to love well in the later seasons of life.
And somehow, in that relaxed space, we covered everything that matters.
Esther shares what it was like to care for her mother in her final years in Barcelona—and why those weeks of service became some of the most joyful of her life. She talks about finally studying for her master's degree after her children left home, the moment she stopped trying to change her husband and started getting curious about him instead, and why she believes the most dangerous thing we can do is wait too long to think seriously about love, marriage, and family.
I'll walk you through:
✅ Why caring for an aging parent can be one of the greatest gifts—for both of you
✅ The moment Esther stopped trying to change Arthur and started studying him instead
✅ Why you cannot love what you don't know—and what happens when curiosity replaces control
✅ How wounded warriors at Walter Reed brought Esther back to her faith
✅ What she told a school of young women about love, career, and the danger of waiting too long
✅ Why doing something hard together—not traveling or retiring—is what actually unites a couple after the kids leave
✅ The difference between mothering and smothering (and why fathers need space to parent differently)
✅ Why marrying younger makes purification easier—and what that says about growth in marriage