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The Broken Picker: Why Trauma Keeps Choosing Your Partners
The Broken Picker: Why Trauma Keeps Choosing Your Partners
Have you promised yourself "never again" — only to find yourself falling for the same kind of partner with a different face? In this episode, Ross Rosenberg explains why willpower, checklists, and even years of research on narcissism aren't enough to stop the cycle. The culprit is what Ross calls the "broken picker" — an unconscious force shaped by childhood attachment trauma that overrides your conscious mind and steers you straight toward narcissistic, controlling, or emotionally unavailabl...