Shame & Loss: What Grief Taught Julie Lucas About Receiving Love

<p><br></p><p><strong>&quot;I thought I knew what grief felt like.&quot;</strong></p><p>A year and a half ago, Julie Lucas&#39; husband Tommie left for a work trip and never came home. What she found on the other side of that loss was not the grief she expected — it was the shame of grieving wrong, the guilt of feeling okay, and the strange loneliness of being surrounded by people who love you and don&#39;t quite know how to reach you.</p><p>In this episode, Julie and Kyira talk about the fear that stops most of us from grieving at all: that if you let yourself feel it all the way down, you will not come back. Julie found the opposite.</p><p>This is an honest look at what grief actually asks of us, and what becomes possible when we stop trying to do it the right way.</p><p>CHAPTERS</p><p>00:00 Cold open<br>00:49 Intro<br>04:34 &quot;I thought I knew what grief felt like&quot;<br>05:08 The somatic side of grief nobody warns you about<br>09:11 Who Tommie was<br>12:16 The morning it happened<br>15:46 &quot;You&#39;re going to love it here. I feel so free.&quot;<br>20:41 The fear: if I feel it fully, I won&#39;t come back<br>21:48 Asking her mother to hold her<br>24:52 Protecting everyone else from your grief<br>25:27 &quot;I don&#39;t want my identity to become this&quot;<br>30:41 Grief has no timeline<br>39:14 The acoustic guitar emoji<br>48:40 Grief is a solitary journey we can&#39;t do alone<br>51:45 There&#39;s no right or wrong way to do this<br>54:39 Why &quot;let me know if you need anything&quot; doesn&#39;t work</p><p>MORE ABOUT JULIE</p><p>As an introverted overthinker, Julie knows what it&#39;s like to feel anxious and stuck in her head. She spent much of her footwear design career in critique mode, comparing her work with others and chasing trends.</p><p>She became a master of focusing on the outside world and, in the process, lost track of her body and its wisdom. A yoga nidra class that brought her back home to herself propelled her on a journey to learn and share this profound practice of meditation and self-inquiry.</p><p>CONNECT WITH JULIE</p><p>Website: <a href="https://www.withinwonder.com/" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://www.withinwonder.com/</a><br>Yoga Nidra: <a href="https://www.withinwonder.com/yoga-nidra" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://www.withinwonder.com/yoga-nidra</a><br>Work with Julie: <a href="https://www.withinwonder.com/individual" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">http