Lost Yourself in Motherhood? How to Reclaim Who You Are Beyond Being Mum

Is it possible to absolutely love being a mum... and still feel like something is missing?

For so many women, motherhood brings immense joy—but it can also bring an unexpected sense of loss. The loss of confidence, identity, ambition or simply remembering who you were before everyone needed a piece of you. In this deeply honest conversation, I sit down with author, speaker and coach Benita Bensch to talk about the parts of motherhood we don't often say out loud.

Benita shares her journey through raising four boys on the land, experiencing two significant periods of burnout she describes as "the black hole," and the long road back to reconnecting with herself. Together, we explore why so many mothers feel invisible, how our inner stories can keep us stuck, and why asking for what you need isn't selfish—it's essential. If you've ever wondered, "Who am I outside of being Mum?" this episode is for you.

In this episode we discuss:

Why it's possible to love motherhood and still crave more for yourselfFeeling invisible after becoming a mumThe identity shift that comes with motherhoodBenita's experience of burnout, anxiety and finding herself againWhy reconnecting with your creativity mattersLetting go of guilt around wanting something for yourselfThe power of boundaries, self-awareness and asking for helpPractical ways to reconnect with yourself when life feels overwhelming

If this conversation resonated with you, I'd love for you to share it with another mum who needs to hear that she's not alone.

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