
← This Stage of Life5 sep · 25 min
At 55, Sex and the City Looks Different
<p>When <em>Sex and the City</em> premiered in 1998, I was 27 years old with a three-year-old and a six-month-old. My life looked absolutely nothing like Carrie, Charlotte, Miranda and Samantha's—and yet, I was completely obsessed.</p><p><br></p><p>I was living vicariously through four women in New York who were dating, working, talking about relationships, wearing fabulous clothes and trying to figure out who they were.</p><p><br></p><p>Now I'm 55, and I've found myself thinking about those women—and especially Charlotte—in a completely different way.</p><p><br></p><p>Kristin Davis's <em>Are You a Charlotte?</em> podcast sent me down a little <em>Sex and the City</em> rabbit hole, and it got me thinking about something much bigger than a television show:</p><p><strong>Who did we think we were going to become?</strong></p><p><br></p><p>So many of us grew up with a picture in our heads of what a happy, successful woman's life was supposed to look like. Marriage. Family. Career. The beautiful house. The right clothes. The right choices. The right version of ourselves.</p><p><br></p><p>And then life happened.</p><p><br></p><p>We changed.</p><p><br></p><p>Our priorities changed.</p><p><br></p><p>Some dreams came true. Some didn't. Some turned out not to be our dreams at all.</p><p><br></p><p>And somewhere around midlife, we finally get to ask:</p><p><strong>“Wait… do I even want that anymore?”</strong></p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, I'm talking about <em>Sex and the City</em>, Charlotte York, being a young Gen X mom in 1998, living vicariously through women whose lives looked nothing like mine, and what happens when you reach 55 and realize you don't need to become the woman you once imagined.</p><p><br></p><p>Maybe you get to become the woman you actually are.</p><p><br></p><p>So tell me…</p><p><strong>Were you a Charlotte, Carrie, Miranda or Samantha? And would you still choose the same one today?</strong></p><p><br></p><p>☕️ Bring your coffee. We're figuring it out together.</p>